"OK.  OK.  Are you defensive?  Yes.  But everyone is defensive.  And I think it's a bit different for you because you do a lot of work explaining your own behavior and thoughts to yourself so it's extra hard to hear an outsider's point of view and/or someone who spends no time considering her own action (aka someone like me)."
- I Hate Everyone But You by Gaby Dunn and Allison Raskin